Self-esteem. It is a topic that is relatable to every person. We all interact with our self-esteem on a daily basis, and likewise, it impacts our daily life. Whether your self-esteem is high, low, or somewhere in the middle, self-esteem is part of our relationships, thought processes, work or school life, and day-to-day experiences.

In therapy, many people present for self-esteem issues. Likewise, many people present for other issues that often actually turn out to be a deeper reflection of their self-perceptions and opinions, and a tendency to devalue themself.

Some people are acutely aware of their negative self talk, while others are not ready to acknowledge or face that this is something they struggle with. Regardless of where you are on that spectrum, it may be time to change the way you talk to yourself.

Having positive and high self-esteem is a critical component of living a happy, healthy, productive, and high-quality life.


Treating self-esteem difficulties is not all that complicated. This is similar to many of the tasks that are assigned during the course of therapy – they are not complicated in nature, yet this does not mean they are easy. For the person who struggles with their self-esteem, completing these tasks is anything but easy, and in fact is often incredibly challenging.

For many, the tasks practiced to increase self-esteem may feel as though one is lying to themself, and just artificially attempting to make themselves feel better. In this way, they are used to and almost would rather continue to tell themselves the negative and often destructive things that they have been rather than do the hard work of changing their thought and self-talk patterns.

The key to self-esteem work (and just about every other area of growth) is consistency. If you are not consistent in addressing and changing your self view, it is not likely that things will be much different. Again, the actual tasks that are required to build self-esteem are not complicated. Rather, they are emotionally trying and many people who have self-esteem challenges possess a mental block that interferes with their ability to see that they are not actually the words they have told themselves for so long. Part of therapy is working through those mental blocks and developing an open mind to be able to see one’s self differently.

When people engage in negative self-talk, the question we, as clinicians, often ask is: Can you imagine if your friend talked to you that way?
And so we elaborate: why is it okay for a person to say such negative, degrading, belittling, condescending remarks to themself? If you wouldn’t take that type of treatment from a friend, why are you willing to put up with it from yourself?


If you are looking to regain or strengthen your confidence, self-worth, and self-esteem, we would love to help. We can provide the tools and strategies needed for helping you change your thinking, recognize your strengths, and develop positive self-beliefs. The impact of this type of mental change will impact every area of your life for the better. In addition to strategy, we provide continued support and a realistic framework to keep you motivated and progressing.

Whatever the reason, give us a call or send us an email.  Remember, there are many reasons why people seek therapy. Professional mental health assistance can greatly benefit you in many ways, including making important changes in your life.

We are committed to providing therapy and counseling services in a comfortable, safe, relaxing, encouraging, and non-judgmental environment to yield the most realistic and best outcomes.  Give us a call or email us today to schedule an appointment.

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